In the summer of 2009 my daughter joined the YMCA co-ed soccer league. One of her teammates was a boy named Hayden. Hayden’s mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, aunts and uncles all gathered every Saturday morning, decked out in burnt orange, to cheer Hayden on. But Hayden hated soccer.
Parents who learn how to “translate” teenage behavior will be able to understand and respond in ways that are more effective and more loving.
As the year winds down and final exams loom, you might be tempted to remind your teen of the consequences of failure. It makes sense, it seems like, to motivate a kid by pointing out that he’ll not graduate on time if he goofs off.... Seems like, but not true.
Is your child lying about homework? Maybe her teacher has told you that homework isn’t getting done, but she never seems to have any to do. Maybe she tells you she “did it on the bus” or “got it all done in class.” Why would a child lie about homework and what can you do about it?
Here’s a common scenario: you’re a single parent of an older child or teenager. You fall in love with a wonderful person, the two of you get married (or not), and Wonderful Person moves in with you. But your child is not on board. What can you do to smooth things over between them?