When children tell untruths, cry without tears, laugh or say, “I don’t care” when you dole out a threat or consequence, you may see this behavior as manipulative and then react accordingly. If I think this child is manipulating me, I am naturally going to feel angry, put-upon and even trapped. These types of emotions […]
Your child will have learned how to be more independent and self-reliant than he was when he lived at home....This means that you’ll have to change your old ways of interacting with your child and accommodate his new, adult status.
Many parents’ first instinct when a child reaches her teens is to clamp down on the rules. Suddenly, we want to run background checks on all her friends, accompany her on every trip to the mall, and listen in on her phone calls. But far from keeping a teen safe, turning up the Strict Meter only drives behavior underground. Stuff is still going on – you just no longer see it.
Parenting Coach Katie Malinski LCSW coaches a single-mother with five teenagers how to get her kids to help out around the house with chores.